Trying to Make a Troubled Relationship Work?

So you decided to stay in your troubled relationship, trying to make it work and not give up on it.

✨ This is great but only if it is a mutual decision amongst you and your partner. You must both be on the same page here! Once you are both on the same wavelength, the real difficult work begins. And the big question is, do you know where to begin?

 ✨ It really helps to begin with distinguishing where the conflict arises between the two of you. And perhaps how that can be avoided or minimized. This is where compromise is going to come into place and there is going to have to be some give-and-take. Next, apart from conflict you will want to distinguish where you are both out of alignment with values and priorities. There are two options here, you either both have to adjust to accommodate one another or concede and except where your partner is at and agree to be on different sides of the fence here. Lastly, even with making these adjustments to avoid conflict, it is human nature to fall into old patterns. When conflict arises you may both have a tendency to argue in an unproductive manner based on old patterns and so here you need to find ways to stop them and be able to shift gears more productively or take time outs so to speak. 

✨ If one of you simply cannot get over past troubles and resentments and forgiveness is not in the cards, then please recognize this and save yourself and your partner time, pain and suffering. There will not be a successful outcome with this outlook. Your mindset has to be centered on a successful partnership and if it falls short of that, time and energy are being wasted. 

✨ It is always helpful to seek the help of an outside third-party with no judgment to help you both work through things. If you are confused all together as to which direction you want your future to head in then it can be helpful to talk to a coach such as myself to see which avenues your future can take and what that can mean for you.

✨ Here’s to your happy future. ❤️

Contact me if you are confused as to which direction you want to take.